
How a military retirement plan saved my life
- August 15, 2021
I got a letter from my father-in-law, saying that he needed to go back to the U.S. to see his doctor.
The letter was from his father- in-law to my father.
The message was very clear.
I don’t want to go to the military.
My father- and I have been together for 10 years, and we have had a very good relationship.
I am not going to go and see my doctor.
It wasn’t an ultimatum.
He was saying, “You know what?
I want you to come back and see your doctor, and if it is a serious condition, I will not be coming back.”
We were talking about retirement.
I was very confused.
My dad was not going back, but I thought I would.
I had my life planned out, and I thought, “Oh, my God, I am going to make it.”
My father, the military was my life.
I remember him saying, you know what, he will stay in this country until he gets home.
He said, “I will see you in 20 years, so if you want to see me in 20 or 30 years, I want to come to you.”
I said, well, you don’t have to, and he said, I can wait.
“I went to my doctor the next day, and my son was there, and his knee was hurting.
I asked him what was wrong.
He told me it was a tear in his knee.
He had a pinched nerve.
I thought he would have to have surgery to repair the tear.
I went back to my dad and said, you have to come home.
We had a meeting about how I was going to retire.
My Dad said, he is not going anywhere.
He wants to come see you when you are 80.
I said: I will be 80 in 20, and you have my life plan, and that’s the way it is.
I want him to come visit me.
I told him, you must come to see my dad.
He wanted to go with me.
When I was 20, I had an MRI.
I didn’t want that to happen.
My son was out of the military, and so I thought that he would be out of it as well.
My doctor said, that is not a possibility, and it is not possible to come and see him at this point.
My mom was there for the whole thing.
I would have loved to have had the doctor come to the meeting, and tell me what to do.
I wasn’t prepared for what he said.
I could have been a hero and fought for my son and my family.
I’m sorry, my mom, but you can’t fight the system that I am fighting.
I feel like my dad-in the military never said a word to me.
My family had nothing to do with the decision.
My husband, who was also in the military- was the only one to ask for a medical evaluation, and when I was told that my dad would not be able to come because of my knee injury, I knew that my son would never see him again.
My brother-in, we had a lot of conversations about how to handle this, and there were so many decisions that I had to make.
I wanted to stay in the country.
My life is a lot easier when I am home.
My children love me, my family is a good family.
We are very proud of our kids.
It is a very happy time for us.
I have a new job.
I love it, but there is no job that I could do.
My wife is still in the Army.
She works for a defense contractor.
I haven’t had a job in a while, but she has taken a job at the Pentagon.
We have a lot to work on.
The military gave us a lot.
My kids are not going in the world without me.